DATING
“Opening to Love”
This 6-session bundle is meant for any man or woman who is dating with the intention of creating a truly connected relationship but keeps ending up in similar, unsatisfying situations again and again.
About dating … and possibly you
Dating has always been confusing, but it has become ever more so in nowadays dating-app culture.
If you are anything like me, you took it upon yourself to learn some things about love and dating. You are maybe in the process of becoming more vulnerable, or more skilful in how you communicate, better at setting boundaries or at expressing your femininity as a woman (or masculinity as a man). Kudos to you!
And yet, while things might have become a little easier or clearer, you notice that you keep ending up in similar not-so-ideal situations:
- with yet another unavailable man (or woman);
- with someone with whom there was a lot of chemistry in the beginning but then things became muddled or even stopped abruptly;
- swinging between “exciting but painful” relationships and “safe but boring” ones;
- with someone who is not really interested in you (but rather in an idea of you, your status, or in the idea of a couple);
- no man (or woman) seems to be “out there”.
The way I see it…
Our relating patterns, picked up as children, show up big time in our dating.
When we notice a repetitiveness in our dating life, we are most probably dealing with the influence of such a pattern.
We think “I’m just following my heart”, but in reality we simply recreate something which is familiar to us: an unavailable partner, a non-caring one, a hot&cold relationship, a “disappearing date” etc.
How do we pick up these patterns?
Well, sometimes we copy Mom and Dad, sometimes we choose the opposite of their preferences, sometimes we recreate a situation we lived with one of them.
We are mostly unconscious of these patterns, this is why they affect us almost like a hypnosis. We can practice our authenticity, vulnerability or femininity tools all we want, as long as we are under this influence, we will recreate the familiar situation.
What I mean by “recreate” is that, to take an example, we will either choose an unavailable partner or we will relate in such a way with the one in front of us that he/she becomes unavailable, and bang, we are back in the “soup”.
As you can imagine, these patterns are a barrier to us creating the connection and the relationships that would make us happy.
So this package is about…
…Completely turning the focus from finding Mr. Right or Ms. Right towards what stops you from creating the love you want.
In my experience, there are many people “out there” with whom we can create an alive, juicy, vibrant and yet healthy love. But to open to that possibility, it is necessary to come out of our conditioning (our patterns).
The process is never linear, but some things you can expect over these sessions are:
* I will support you see and understand your pattern – what is it that creates the repetition in your dating? There are often different facets to this, some more easy to grasp, some more hidden. I will help you get a good, deep grip.
* I will show you tools which will help you notice this pattern “at work” in your dating, deal with the emotions around it and find new, fresh ways to act.
* You will get new understandings and tools to amplify your already acquired skills or develop them for the first time (like communicating in relationships, setting boundaries, turning up your femininity/masculinity etc.).
Possible outcomes:
If you dive into this work with an open heart and sincere motivation, you can expect these changes in your dating:
more clarity about the choices you make and hence less acting out of an automatic pilot;
showing up with more self-confidence and relaxation;
less stress and more enjoyment;
a real chance at creating a deeply connected, vibrant, yet healthy relationship.
Practicalities
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THE PACKAGE
- 6 weekly sessions of apx. 90 min.
- Self-reflective and inner-transformation exercises between sessions.
- Email support throughout the 6 weeks.
PRICE: 550 EUR - 750 EUR
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FREE INTRO SESSSION
Before booking this package, I offer a free introductory session. Its purpose is for both of us to get a feel if we are a fit and if I can be of help.
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TOO BIG TO START WITH?
If booking one package feels like too big a commitment, I also offer you the option of booking one session following our introductory session.
PRICE: 140 EUR
What to expect from a session with me
I have developed my own style of working with people, in which I combine:
giving people an understanding of how relationships work
showing and practicing the tools for them to unlock their own wisdom regarding connection and intimacy.
the emotional, caring space for people to navigate the difficulties they experience.
My focus is on the present moment and finding ways forward in the “now”. However, I do believe that one major key to finding our wisdom is in understanding how our past influences our nowadays decisions, as well as a good connection with our inner child. So you can expect that as part of our work together.
Feeling more like homestudy?
Here is a series of recordings from an Open Thursday webinar focused on Dating:
MAKING DATING BETTER, THROUGH AN UNDERSTANDING OF THE THREE RELATING WOUNDS.